“If he were allowed contact with foreigners he would discover that they are creatures similar to himself and that most of what he has been told about them is lies. The sealed world in which he lives would be broken, and the fear, hatred, and self-righteousness on which his morale depends might evaporate. It is therefore realized on all sides that however often Persia, or Egypt, or Java, or Ceylon may change hands, the main frontiers must never be crossed by anything except bombs.”—George Orwell, 1984 (via haereticum)
I’m such a bad girlfriend sometimes! I complain so much, I’m very demanding, and last night (for the second time!) I told him I kissed someone else while I was out drinking! Well, a boy kissed me and I said it was fun. This morning I felt so stupid! It wasn’t fun at all, and bf was a bit upset, but then I explained that it was just a drunk friend and I wasn’t quick enough to pull away before he came close and I felt really bad for saying it was fun, because it wasn’t. Anyway I bought him presents to make up for it, I hope he likes them.
If we don’t go away to the Whitsunday’s next month, maybe I will go to Thailand for two weeks with friends instead, although option one is my first preference.
I’ve been overly social the last few weeks, it has made me tired. I feel like I say too many things that I don’t mean, and I do things I don’t particularly want to do just so that I can be around fun people who are my friends and not be lying in my bed with my cat, watching Stargate SG-1 all night. I just can’t really be bothered having to talk all the time, I’m happy to sit quietly and watch a movie? I’m going to keep suggesting movie nights.
Sometimes my bf asks me to do things for him that I know he’d never do for me, and I just hate doing it, I get angry at myself because I know it’s not fair that I generally just put in so much effort into the relationship whereas he just cruises by.
He’s just inherently not that nice. I know he puts up patiently with all my dramatic outbursts and demands but I think being patient and forgiving is about as far as his kindness goes. He’s not very sensitive, or caring or considerate… I think the only sweet things he does for me is plug my phone into the charger at night sometimes, paying for dinner and movies, and when I get really dressed up for something he says I look good. Sometimes when I’m really sad he might put his pride on the line and express his feelings for me a little…but I can tell it is difficult for him and makes him uncomfortable. I just ignore it and take things as they come but sometimes if he just does too many selfish and rude things in one week (this happens most weeks) I have to point it out to him and sometimes he explains or apologizes or he just invites me over for a movie and hugs me until I’m not mad anymore and gives me his precious last can of dr pepper. Other times he just avoids talking to me for a day so he doesn’t have to listen to my complaining about him being a dick.
Sometimes if I don’t speak to any of my friends for a few days I forget that I have friends, I feel really lonely and sad. Then I hang out with them and I’m reminded that I’m not actually alone and everything is fine. Usually I think it means I’m just being hormonal and pessimistic… Need to work on that.
Just because your friends are busy with their lives, doesn’t mean they don’t love you!
Mj is making me so angry this week. Every summer it’s the same problem, even though we always have the same discussion every year about gift etiquette. I know we agreed to disagree, and I did allow for one rat and one lizard to be procured and brought home alive as a present to me, but I never agreed to a gift being dropped off in my room, alive, every night. These so called gifts are running around the house making deafening screeches as they are being eaten and it’s cruel and unpleasant.
I’ve repeatedly requested to stick to the rat gift quota in summer and you keep violating the arranged amount. Frankly I’m sick and tired of helping the lizards you capture because when I pick them up by the tail to rescue them and send them outside, they just release their tail from the rest of the body.
What’s the point of us having an agreement Mj if you’re not going to stick to it? Come on. I’m sick of being woken up every summer night. I told you I want a ps3 for Christmas, not a rat.
Going to Sydney to see Eminem live! Bf is driving the whole way because I can’t drive his manual brand new xr6 turbo. Wish I could though, it’s a monster of a vehicle! Very excited, I’ve dreamt of seeing him for years and couldn’t afford it before! Yay
It’s ironic that the more time my bf spends with me to stop me from annoying him about spending time together, makes me want to see him even more!
He’s right, you can’t give in to women’s demands because they always want more and are never satisfied with what’s being given. As soon as they hear “yes”, they want even more “yes”. If you start with saying no, then the occasional yes will be highly appreciated and not taken for granted by the woman.
I have the worst bf ever don’t I? Lucky he’s such a babe and a gentleman or I probably wouldn’t put up with all of his sexist behavior lol.
A few nights ago I spoke to the ex boyfriend I tried to kill myself over two years ago. We texted for about two hours and I think we were both wandering why we were so in love for so long because we are both so vastly different now and have almost nothing in common anymore.
He’s changed a lot and we’ve both moved on. I have Uni and my current boyfriend, and he has speed and alcohol. He thinks I’m a loser because I don’t party as much and I’m dependent on a guy, whilst I think he’s a loser because he’s 25 and parties excessively to the point of gluttony.
How can someone change so much and become such an asshole of a human because they’ve been hurt by a girl? Dust yourself off and try again mate. A quarter of a century is a bit too early to give up on relationships.
On another note; summer holidays have not been enjoyable at all :(
I don’t know why.
Even though it took over an hour to convince you that being dependent on you is not always such an awful situation, I know that in secret you in fact enjoy my dependence on you because you know that I need you. If I need you, then I won’t stray and risk losing you.
Men like to feel needed, even if they talk a lot about wanting women to be more independent and self sufficient. I know you enjoy fixing my Internet, lifting heavy suitcases, cooking the steak on the BBQ because I pretend I don’t know how to turn it on and so on. I know it makes you feel proud and masculine. You are extremely stubborn and selfish at times but thank you for going through great efforts to be there when I need you, most of the time. Of course no one is entirely selfless that they can be at the disposal of another person indefinitely (-and if they are, that’s pathetic, get a life!), but it’s comforting to know that you do have some selfless, or at least less selfish, tendencies…